Annabel Rivkin

A woman in her mid-30s seeks advice after finding herself in a casual sexual relationship with someone she neither likes nor finds attractive, yet with whom she is experiencing the best sex of her life. The columnists suggest that the lack of emotional involvement allows her to explore her desires freely and prioritise her own pleasure. They encourage her to enjoy the experience without misleading her partner, noting that it can serve as a period of sexual growth and self‑knowledge. They emphasise that good sex can develop in future relationships and that combining emotional connection with physical intimacy is ultimately necessary, advising her to take what she has learned into her next relationship.